Just started He's Just Not That Into You chapter 2 -"he's just not that into you if he's not calling you - men know how to use the phone" when my phone rang and it was a guy who wanted sex! I'm guessing that means he's into me, as far as that takes me.

I gotta back up and say Boy Toy IM'd me last night and asked if I'd mind if he drops over unannounced whenever he feels like it. I told him that's not going to happen, I will not accept unannounced visitors at all hours. I know it's born from "I'd like to come see you whenever I can sneak out on my girlfriend" which I guess is flattering, but I have a higher purpose than to be home when he wants some. I told him I'm not his beck-and-call girl - unless he's going to pay me and then we'll talk. I think that's from some movie, "beck-and-call girl." I like it. Note that he did not use the phone to contact me. According to the book, that means he must not be that into me.

So the phone rang and it was JY, the guy from Saturday who really wanted to see me STAT. He left me a msg Saturday with his IM info, I didn't really listen to it. He just called me and wanted to see if I'm free tonight. I told him I really didn't want to give him my address when he still blocks his phone number when he calls me. Jesus, dude. He was all "aw come on, you know me!" That makes no difference here. Trust is a two-way street.

But. I had a hell of a day and could really use a bit of fun. So I told him I'd give him my address on the condition that he NEVER come over uninvited (I learned that much from Boy Toy's message) and I told him that if he did come over uninvited, I'd sick my dog on him. I knew that when he knocked or came on the porch, she'd go crazy and be all barky and scary, and even though she's lovable once you get inside, I did my best to give him the impression she's a dangerous beast. I learned the hard way there were precisely two condoms in my house that I could find, one in my purse which was too small for him but we used it anyway, and one that expired in May. I have a dozen or more in my travel bag which is in my car, that didn't help me when I needed them tonight. So I only got laid once and didn't even get off. There's something else that will keep him from coming over - or maybe ever coming to this house again - there's dog hair on everything. You can't hide that kind of thing from a wife.

Now I've got Boy Toy on IM. Instead of showing up unannounced, he'd like to show up late at night on a "somewhat regular basis". I don't want to stay up until after midnight just to wait for him to come over - I can't go to bed that late on a regular basis. I told him once a week, maybe. I did tell him I could really use the TLC tonight, though, so he's more than welcome to come over today. So far he hasn't said yes, he said it's supposed to rain tonight, which I think means his excuse he was going to give his gf for going out at midnight will be shot to hell.

He asked when I leave for work and when I get home, so he could maybe stop over other times that aren't so late I guess. I'm not telling him because (a) I am not going to change my whole schedule and inconvenience myself all the time just for him, which I told him, and (b) there's the whole uninvited visitors thing.

He said he could come by in the AM if I could go into work late, either all the time or once in a while, but I am not going to work late. I can leave earlier a lot easier, which means getting there earlier. So he's all "how early can you leave?" and I said "first tell me when you might be here" 'cause like I said, I'm not going to say I can leave at 2 PM (which I can't) and have him go "ok, I'll be there at 2:30!" If this is going to happen, it'll be at my convenience. It's my life, it's my house, and he's gonna have to deal with what I'm willing to give. I'm not willing to throw my entire life into chaos in order to hook up with him, I don't care how great in bed he is. [OK, I do care how great in bed he is, I care a LOT, which is partly why I'm even willing to consider staying up one night a week.]'

I told him all that, except the last bit, and he still said "what's the earliest you can get home tomorrow?" Talk about thinking with your dick. So I said how early I can get home tomorrow "depends on when I need to be here. I'm not getting up at 5 AM so I can get home early if it's not going to make any difference. That's why I asked you to tell me. You're the one with a curfew. When would you have to leave here?" We'll see if he has an answer for that. He's been quiet for ... damn, 45 minutes. Whatever. He knows how to get hold of me.

and I just caught PSG on IM. What a busy night! I was supposed to be doing a whole shitload of other stuff, but as usual, I'm willing to ignore that if it means I'm getting some.