You are a man: 1. Seeing a shooting on your quiet, tree-shaded block in Brooklyn.
2. Hearing the speeches at your 50th-wedding-anniversary party.




You are: 1. A man listening to your wife and daughter scream at each other at Thanksgiving dinner.
2. A middle-aged tax accountant told by a beautiful young colleague that you’re “incredibly sexy.”
3. A C.E.O. who knows that the compensation committee is going to O.K. your massive raise.
4. A struggling restaurant owner confronting two protection-racket collectors: “That’s it, you bloodsucking bastards, not one more penny!”