I'm becoming more and more perplexed over today's society and its view of love and relationships.  I'm not so arrogant, conservative, or close minded to tell people they shouldn't have one night stands and flings, that is a person's personal choice.  My problem is how people try to ignore what they're actually doing and expecting something else from it. 
I guess this semester my irritation with this started with all the freshman coming in.  Any college student that doesn't try to veil what I'm about to explain already know what I'm going to say.  Freshman are fresh meat.  They haven't been used by the rest of the campus yet and men that want a fling go straight for the target,  A lot of these girls are naive, desperate for a "relationship", or they don't have a clear understanding of what a relationship is.  When these guys approach them within the first couple of weeks, these freshman girls I'm thinking of fuck them.  Apparently that's how a lot of girls think a relationship starts out. 
Now, I can't speak for this happening to incoming freshman boys, because they never speak of it openly it seems, though i suspect it does to some.  However, what I do hear are girls complaining after thos two weeks about how "he hasn't called me, I don't understand we had sex last weekend but I haven't heard since." "We've been having sex all this time but I saw him with a girl last night and when I asked him why I saw my bf with another girl he asked me since when was I his gf?" "*tears* I can't believe he broke up with me! We just started dating!"  "I don't get why none of these guys want to date me." 

*sigh*

Sadly some people never seem to figure it out even after freshman year. . .sometimes I wonder if ever.

My aggravation and distress over this has just been heightened by a friend's actions this semester. She has repeatedly discussed her worry over the fact that she can't get a relationship and how she doesn't understand why they won't stay in a relationship with her.  The problem is you can't tell her,  "Well lets see.  .  . Every guy you've tried to have a "relationship" with. . .You've gone straight for dick in vagina either before you start dating or right after and then build on that, and not on the actual relationship itself."  Increasing number of times of sexings does not make it a better relationship.  It just makes for possibly sexual gratification and good playtime, not love.  And guys that want to stick around, see her behavior and become wary and unsure of her ability to stay in and hold a relationship.  Is that a problem for people in general that just want a good time and nothing long term? No, it's not.  More power to them as long as they're honest with themselves that that's what they actually want. 

The real problem is, such as my friend, is that there's people expecting more, they get attached to someone they're just a fuck for, and/or expect aspects of a relationship they have NO entitlement to.  It's even worse when they admit to what it is but still have these things happen.

My friend last night decided to mess around with a guy that has a girlfriend.  She knows he has a gf.  Shitty of the guy and even shittier of her, because she herself should know how it feels to find out your bf was messing around with some other girl.  She had made comments about him one night when I was riding in her car and in reply all I said about it was "And he has a gf."
The blatant refusal of consideration for this girl when she expects anyone she dates to be faithful to her, is beyond my understanding.  All I can think is maybe she is doing it because she doesn't think she can have a relationship so what the hell.  But. . . don't constantly cry around that you don't have one and don't understand why if that's how you're going to behave.

What's even more sad, a guy that actually wanted her, has seen all this and doesn't trust her for it anymore.

It's something I've considered before, this love vs. lust mess that's been going on for a while.  I actually wrote a definition/research essay on it.  I'll post that next.