This is the best way I can describe it.  To be a strong woman that is "ON" 99.95% of the time when little do your friends and loved ones know.  Once you make that discovery, do the self exploration, and finally make your peace with the fact that yes...at the end of the day, you are a willingly submissive woman.  That verbiage means something different to everyone.  To me it means that I submit, of my own free will, to having a man take the lead role in my personal life.  With his strength, he can appreciate me being a strong woman but, permits me the comfort and ability to not have to be that 24/7.  I can soften myself and feel like I'm fulfilling a desire that has been inherently in me since birth.  He does not bark orders, he does not take me for granted.  He knows that left to my own devices, I will pride myself in making him happy and taking very good care of him, while looking to him for guidance and reassurance.  We provide nourishment to one another in a way that a lot of people can not understand, nor accept.  This is something that goes beyond sexuality.  It is who we are at the very core of our being and it is not for others to dictate or decide.